You’ve done it. I’ve done it. We’ve all done it!
Yep, we’re all guilty of a having our “drama queen” moments and we all know it.
Have you ever noticed how some people just seem to have so much drama in their lives, whereas others just cruise through?
For me personally, I was brought up around quite a bit of drama.
My parents argued non-stop, and eventually divorced when I was sixteen – so I went through the whole teenage girl vs. step mother/step father thing and have moved house at least fourteen times since then (cue the exaggeration).
My sister and I were carted back and fourth for the first year or so and became quite accustomed to living out of a suitcase!
Not long after my parents split, my first long-term boyfriend and I broke up (need I say more), my little sister had to take all the photos, jewellery and gifts he had gotten me over the years out of my bedroom before I got home because I just could not deal!
I remember lying on my bedroom floor just crying my eyes out thinking my heart was literally broken in two (obvious drama queen in the making).
At the time, it felt like it was never going to get better. Note to self: this may be where my Taylor Swift obsession started.
I’m now 24 and I guess after all that had happened at at such a young and impressionable age, I wasn’t really used to living a comfortable and stress-free lifestyle for long periods of time, and when it was, I panicked.
So that’s me in a nutshell, a recovering drama queen!
I still have my moments (don’t we all…), but I make sure I always try to stop and think before reacting.
Are you a bit of a DQ? Check out my top tips to avoid drama and just chill the F out!
1. Recognise when you might be creating drama
Remember that what you put out into the world, and how you react to situations is exactly how people see you.
2. Don’t be a gossip or feed off other people’s drama
Resist the urge to jump on the old gossip girl bandwagon! Give yourself a window to listen, and then leave it at that. No good can come from validating negatives and spreading rumours.
3. Pause before you respond
Rather than jumping the gun and using overly dramatic words, take a deep breath (or two) to get some clarity on the situation.
4. Try doing something for someone else
Instead of getting so wound up about how hectic and terrible your own life is, take a moment to focus your thoughts on how you can give yourself to someone else.
5. Stop comparing yourself to others
If you find yourself always trying to get one up on someone else who’s talking about a problem or issue they’re having in their own life, stop. It looks so bad.
6. Relax and enjoy your lifestyle
Drama queens are notorious for getting irritable when too much time has gone by between crises. Take a step back and realise that it’s normal to not have drama in your life, so enjoy it while you can!
7. Change your perspective
We need to remember that the majority of drama takes place in our own heads, and it’s usually because we’re so deeply involved in our own thoughts. Take a step back and realise what you’re doing.
8. Stay away from unhealthy and toxic relationships
One way to minimize the drama in your life is to minimize the dramatic people in your life. Befriend people with good energy that build you up, instead of tearing you down.
9. Learn from drama
Know that life will always throw problems your way, and the only thing you can control is how you react and learn from them.
10. Keep yourself occupied
Boredom is one of the key triggers for drama queens, so make sure you’ve got a good line-up of hobbies (this is where I introduce my blog…) and relationships to keep you occupied.
11. Live in the present
Rather than living (and worrying) five steps ahead of everyone else, wind it right back and deal with right now. Drama usually involves bringing up the past or fretting about the future.
12. Stop over-thinking everything
I know it’s easier said then done (especially in girl world), but so much stress and drama is built up from over-thinking. Half the time, whatever your worried about doesn’t even exist!
So next time you find yourself ‘having a moment’ just take off that tiara and think to yourself, is it really worth it?
P.s if you’re wondering, I’m wearing essie Licorice on my nails and Clinique Pop Colour + Primer in Cola on my lips.
